When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present  helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to:  
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